I didn't see a single person bitching that Tim Drake's dad was dead because he was *gasp* male. (Yeah, they bitched because they killed Tim's dad, but that's another rant entirely)
Not every female being harmed is some part of any overriding male agenda. Heck, I'd say most of them aren't. I'd even be so bold as to say NONE of them are. Outside of Dave Sim, but he's mister lunatic fringe sometimes. The majority of characters are male. The majority of the audience is male, hence they write characters of the same sex to better identify with. When villains strike, you go after loved ones, and those tend to be...females. And since villains are BAD GUYS, they do, oh, I dunno, BAD THINGS. This isn't really a hard thing to figure out. No one complains when Jimmy Olsen gets shoved in a refrigerator.
This was kicked up because someone on wank_daily...er, scans_daily posted scans from Brave New World where Mary loses her powers, and plummets. They assume Mary is going to die, although such a thing isn't revealed, or even alluded to, outside of falling from a great height. So not only is their rant annoying, but based on VERY incomplete info and thus VERY likely to be wrong, since this was an eight page 'story' setting up the upcoming 12 issue Shazam miniseries. There's nothing I find more annoying than comic fans getting up in arms because of things they're just assuming out of half, or 1/15th, of a story. My favourites are the ones who see a cliffhanger and bitch, when things get tied up nicely and to their satisfaction within a page or three of the next issue.
And thus I now duck and cover as every female on my friends list takes a pot shot at me. ;)
I shall use my Batwoman icons to incur more wrath!